It Wasn’t On Purpose
When I had my last dog everything was very different. He was laid back and didn’t require a lot of attention. He was happy just laying around doing nothing all by himself. So he got his walks, his food, water, and some playtime when I was up for it.
When I got this dog I thought I had done my research. He was supposed to be medium energy and eager to please. I was a little iffy on the medium energy but I thought I could handle it in the end. Nahum did not come as packaged. He was higher energy and while he would lay around I am thinking now that he needed, and does need, a lot more attention.
Some things I did right, or I thought it was right, he was immediately enrolled in puppy school and then intermediate school and I thought we were doing well. He didn’t agree. He has been a rascal ever since. And other than sit, down, and sometimes stay, we have both forgotten everything.
When I talk about slow learners I am definitely talking about me, not him. I never really thought about the attention factor as being a problem. But why not? Kids who don’t get enough attention act out, why wouldn’t dogs do the same. Just depends on the personality I imagine.
As Nahum related to you yesterday he did the unthinkably good thing. When he handed me that little dish I thought I would skyrocket through the ceiling trailing treats behind me. But there are other things that have happened as well. He’s more eager to see me, he let’s me pet him more (he was actually kind of skittish), and today without even trapping him I was allowed to pick him up! It has taken 2 years for me to figure this out. Like I said, “slow learner.”
Obviously now we have had to make some changes. I make a point of loving on him a LOT more now. And bed time is a special treat with squealing, growling, tug of warring, pouncing, fetching and then cuddling. Also when this corona mess is done I am taking him back to intermediate school since I can’t remember anything now. She said in 8 private sessions I can do the whole class and work on troublesome areas as well. Definitely “leave it” and “drop it.” I can see where it is not a hopeless case, he might even turn into an “eager to please” dog, maybe. But definitely I see how we will be much better off if I continue to bond more. Poor kid ended up with a dud of a mom. But we have a lot of years ahead of us so I’ll get better…he deserves it.